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Erotic Health
Few, if any, of us had an erotic mentor when we were young - someone who knew and cared for his or her own body intimately and shared that knowledge with us in a loving and responsible way. Few, if any, of us think of our erotic lives in a wholistic, regenerative and positive way - it is rather a series of somewhat-connected moments of "getting some," "getting enough"or "getting off" with a fantasy thrown in every now and then for spice.
Sacred Intimacy is an invitation to recover this missing mentoring, to discover the unknown parts of yourself and uncover a new and exciting component of your personal wellness.
Here is a set of wonderful markers of erotic health, formulated by Jack Morin in his book "The Erotic Mind." They outline a way of thinking about this part of ourselves in a refreshing, non-judgmental and open way
Seven signposts of erotic health:
1. The erotically healthy person develops a clear set of ethical values that possess intrinsic personal meaning and applies them in the sexual arena.
2. Erotically healthy people establish safe parameters within which to let themselves go.
3. Erotically healthy people recognize that sexual fantasies and behaviors operate in two separate yet interrelated spheres.
4. Erotically healthy people not only enjoy their fantasies but also use them to gain insights into their emotions and motivations.
5. Erotically healthy people who are involved with children take an interest in their sexual development, especially the promotion and nurturance of positive, self-affirming attitudes toward sex.
6. Erotically healthy people accept and appreciate their sexual uniqueness rather than fearing or fighting it.
7. Erotically healthy people appreciate sexual diversity in others as well as in themselves.
Recommended reading:
"The Erotic Mind" by Jack Morin, PhD
1995, HarperCollins Publishers
"Anal Pleasure and Health" by Jack Morin, PhD
1998, Down There Press
